But when we are the ones driving straight ahead and see another car trying to merge into our lane, we instinctively speed up to block them, as though letting them in means we have somehow “lost.”
At work, many people try their best to fully utilize every sick leave and annual leave day, afraid that otherwise they are missing out. Yet when we become employers, we may hope our employees take fewer leaves, as though granting them rest would somehow become our loss.
Whether as employer or employee, whether as the car going straight or the one trying to turn, if we remain trapped in this mindset, we easily become controlled by our emotions.
Pain often comes from demanding too much.
Happiness often comes from calculating too little.
When we no longer mind letting others have the spotlight or the credit, it means we are slowly growing.
Allowing others to win can also become a kind of fulfillment.
Human relationships are not about who is more manipulative, but about who is more sincere, truthful, and kind.
Sometimes, what we lose may only be temporary and worldly, but what we gain may be a ticket toward heaven. Whether one believes in God or in Buddha, ultimate judgment belongs to the divine.
A person who is deceived is not truly wounded in spirit, because they have not wronged others. But the deceiver may carry guilt and shame for a lifetime.
Being kind to others will not destroy us.
But hurting those who were kind to us makes it difficult to face the ugliness within ourselves.
When you feel hurt, it does not always mean others intended to hurt you.
And when we are being “used,” perhaps it is because we still possess value worth using.
I once heard a successful man say:
“The rich do not become poor because thieves steal from them. And thieves do not become rich because they steal.”
When people repeatedly try to deceive us, perhaps it is because they perceive us as fortunate or abundant.
When people constantly attack us, perhaps even a small amount of achievement has already attracted jealousy and resentment.
Whenever I face hardship, I mentally add a zero to my own age and remind myself:
“I am already old. There is no need to argue over everything.”
Whenever I encounter someone difficult, I mentally subtract a zero from their age and remind myself:
“They are still young. Don’t take it too seriously.”
After my domestic helper worked for my family for three years, she ran away after taking an advance salary and flight ticket. Yet I never checked her luggage before she left.
Recently, a close friend shared a short reflection:
“If my life only had 100 days left, how would I spend the rest of it?”
At the same time, I have been serving as the chairman of an organizing committee, facing many challenges and difficulties. All these thoughts stirred emotions within me.
And so I ask myself:
If my life only had its final 100 days left,
I would want to return quietly to my hometown in Penang — the place where I grew up — and live peacefully there, waiting to reunite with my parents in heaven.
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Posted by GUOYI TANG SDN. BHD. on 16 May 26
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