Why Helping Too Much Can Make Your Child Talk Less
Many parents truly love their children and put in a lot of effort to care for them.
But in daily life, we may not realise that we are doing things like this:
π When your child points, you quickly pass it to them
π Before your child speaks, you speak for them
π When your child cries, you immediately give in
Over time, you may start to notice something:
Your child doesn’t seem to need to talk anymore.
π± Why does helping too much make children speak less?
The reason is actually quite simple:
π If a child can get what they want without speaking
π They won’t feel the need to speak
For children, language is a tool.
If they can achieve what they want without using it, they naturally won’t use it.
π So it’s not that the child can’t speak,
but that they are not required to speak.
π What Lullabee Teachers Do Differently
At Lullabee, we don’t rush to help.
Instead, we create small moments for children to try and express.
β¨ We pause and wait
When a child reaches for something, we don’t give it immediately.
We make eye contact, smile, and give them a few seconds to respond.
β¨ We guide, not replace
Instead of speaking for the child, we gently guide them:
π “What do you want?”
π “Water?”
π “You want water?”
Even if it’s just a small sound or attempt, we celebrate it π
β οΈ Common things parents may do without realising
β Speaking for the child too often
β Giving in immediately when the child cries
β Doing things for the child because we think they cannot
β Getting used to handling everything for them
These actions are very natural, but they can lead to:
π Fewer opportunities to express
π Less motivation to try
π« Why do children talk more in school?
Many parents notice this:
π The child is quiet at home
π But starts talking more in school
This happens because:
• They interact with other children
• There are more situations that require communication
• Teachers don’t over-help
• The environment encourages them to express themselves
π Children grow in environments where they need to communicate.
π What can parents do?
You don’t need to change everything at once. Just start small:
β Wait 3 seconds before helping
β Ask simple questions and give your child time to respond
β Use simple words and repeat
β Give your child more chances to express
Small changes can lead to big progress π±
β€οΈ A message for parents
You help your child because you love them.
But sometimes, helping a little less… is actually helping them more.
π© If you want your child to have more opportunities to express
Besides practising at home,
you can also let your child learn in an environment with peer interaction π
Many children gradually build their communication skills in such environments.
We warmly welcome you to WhatsApp us @ 016-3234369 to arrange a school tour π
Come and experience our environment, teaching approach, and daily routine.
Puchong Jaya Outlet
16, Jalan Kenari 1
Bandar Puchong Jaya
47170 Puchong, Selangor, Malaysia
Old Klang Road Outlet
Wisma Ambawang 3G
Jalan Anggor, Jalan Klang Lama
58100 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
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7:30 AM – 7:15 PM (Puchong Jaya)
7:30 AM – 7:00 PM (Old Klang Road)
Saturday & Sunday: Closed
Public Holidays: Closed
At Lullabee, we focus on more than just care.
We create an environment where children feel safe, supported, and encouraged to grow, not only academically, but also in communication, confidence, and independence.
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